One of the reasons we have such a high divorce rate is that husbands tend to slack off after marriage.

I got her — now I can just kick back. Sorry guys it doesn’t work that way.

Here are some tips you better take to heart before it’s too late.

Skill One: The Marriage Vows

Many people think marriage is some kind of formality or just a piece of paper. It’s not.

It’s a deadly serious decision that will affect you and those around you every day.

When you say I do everything changes. Everyone you know goes down a peg. Your spouse is now number one in your life.

Your girlfriend carries no weight with your family.

Your wife comes ahead of brothers, sisters and mom and dad. You never ever take their side over your wife’s. Blood no longer counts.

She’s your life’s partner — she comes first — even when she’s wrong.

Skill Two: Listening

This is my worst skill. Women don’t think like men. They have a whole different stress level and you need to be aware of it.

Things that are trivial to you mean the world to her at that moment. And you can bet she’ll remember what you said months or even years from now.

As hard as it may be for you — try your best to pay attention and remember.

Skill Three: Manliness vs. Sensitivity

Women want you to win the bar fight but cry at sad movies. Bring you flowers when you’re not obligated to do so.

There are times when you’re expected to stand up for them and times when they want to stand up for themselves. You need to learn which is which.

Skill Four: Your Wife Is Not Your Servant

Make me a sandwich and bring me a beer. Say those nine words too often and you’ll be sitting down deciding on the division of property soon.

You both live in a home that needs things done. Laundry, cooking, dishes, cleaning, — none of those are “women’s work.”

Carry your own weight. You work, she works too.

You both just do it in different ways.

Skill Five: Alone Time

Spending every waking hour together might sound very romantic but all of us need some time to ourselves.

That doesn’t mean you head to the bar with the boys and leave her at home with the kids. It means you stay with the kids and let her do her thing too.

Both of you need a little R&R from time to time. Respect each other’s space.

Some Final Thoughts

Skill six is realizing the world doesn’t revolve around you. Her life, her job, or career has meaning too.

Decisions about the home, kids, money should be made together. Dictatorship marriages seldom last long.

Work on some of these things and maybe the divorce rate will come down a little.

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