Domestic Violence: Would You Even Recognize It?
This coming Monday, Bozeman Mayor Carson Taylor will be issuing a proclamation declaring that Bozeman is a city that stands with survivors. Along with that, you may have already noticed the NO MORE signs on downtown light poles. NO More is a nationwide campaign to end domestic violence.
1 in every 4 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime, and sadly, these statistics may be even higher, since many cases of domestic violence go unreported to the police.
You might be experiencing domestic violence right now in your current relationship and not even recognize it. And you could also have a friend or loved one who is a victim of domestic violence and not see the signs to help them.
According to NNEDV (National Network to End Domestic Violence), here are some "Red Flags" to be aware of.
You're involved with someone who:
- Wants to move too quickly into the relationship.
- Early in the relationship flatters you constantly, and seems "too good to be true."
- Wants you all to him- or herself; insists that you stop spending time with your friends or family.
- Insists that you stop participating in hobbies or activities, quit school, or quit your job.
- Does not honor your boundaries.
- Is excessively jealous and accuses you of being unfaithful.
- Wants to know where you are all of the time and frequently calls, emails, and texts you throughout the day.
- Criticizes or puts you down; says you are crazy, stupid, and/or fat/unattractive, or that no one else would ever want or love you.
- Takes no responsibility for his or her behavior and blames others.
- Has a history of abusing others.
- Blames the entire failure of previous relationships on his or her former partner; for example, "My ex was totally crazy."
- Takes your money or runs up your credit card debt.
- Rages out of control with you but can maintain composure around others.
If you recognize these "Red Flags," and feel unsafe in ending your relationship, reach out for support. You can confide in a friend or in the Bozeman area you can call HAVEN (contact info below). If you believe a friend or relative is being abused, offer your nonjudgmental support and help. You too can reach out to HAVEN on their behalf.
HAVEN (Healing - Advocacy - Victims & Support - Education - New Beginnings):
For nearly 38 years, HAVEN has been dedicated to providing quality service and advocacy for all domestic violence survivors in need. These services include survivor advocacy, legal advocacy, individual counseling, emergency shelter, a 24-hour support line, three support groups, and Community Education.
Call HAVEN at 406.586.4111