White Guys Talking Different Around Black Guys – Don’t Hate Me

I really have a hard time dealing with people hating me or disliking me. I feel like being honest and telling someone how you feel should make people like you, but it doesn't. Seems odd.

For example, a bunch of white friends were talking about how much they thought former President Obama was a weak president. They had some good points. I noticed as soon as a black friend walked over, all the white guys shut up. That bothered me. Why should I talk differently when a black friend is around? Seemed racist. I was treating my black friend different because he was black. I had to continue talking about how I felt about Obama to anyone. Any friend, any race.

But my white friends didn't want to take a chance offending the black friend. That had to be wrong. If I was upset about Israel, I should be able to give my opinion to someone if they are Jewish or not. See that is the way the world is supposed to work.

I dislike Obama, and I will not lie about it because you are black. I KNOW I AM RIGHT.

So when my black friend comes over and says, "What you guys talking about?" I said, "I think, Obama is a really weak President." Suddenly, I saw my friend get upset. He did not take my opinion about the President as I thought he would. He said, "What? Because he is black? You're a racist."

How could this happen? I was being honest and had what I thought were facts on my side. This guy disliked me for talking to him like a person, not a black person or a white person but a person.

So, to get people to like me and not hate me, which is something I want, I need to lie? No, I won't do that. I don't care (but I really do) who likes me. I have to be true to myself.

Does that make sense to you? Please, please LIKE ME.

Dominick